aimeru · the book

The Phone
Between Us

What the smartphone has done to the bond — the architecture of attention, the slow erosion of the primary base, the bodies grieving something neither partner can quite name.

Built from the same thinking as the essays, organized as a single argument from first principles to what the work actually looks like.

Dirk Harms-Merbitz
The Phone
Between Us
aimeru · 2026
Blog
Chosen · Not · Negotiated

What It Could Be

Serial monogamy is a sequence of cohabitation and sex treaties, each at the same floor. On the chosen bond — what the body has been reaching for all along.

Attachment · Encounter · Becoming

The Curriculum

Your partner isn't your problem. They're your teacher. The nervous-system science behind anxious and avoidant attachment, and what actually works.

Abundance · Atrophy · The Quiet After

Her Abundance

The self-defeating architecture of a life modern women build to never need anyone.

Presence · Consciousness · The Unnamed

The Open Line

What technology cannot replicate, and what we lost the vocabulary to name.

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