Family Map — Aimeru

Step 1 of 7

Start with you

We'll build outward from here.

What should we call you?

Age

Gender

Female Male Other

Step 2 of 7

Your mother

Or the person who filled that role.

Name or label

Living?

Yes Deceased

Patterns you observed

Narcissistic Enabler Caretaker Anxiety Depression Addiction Anger / rage Controlling Absent People-pleaser Hypercritical Enmeshed

Your relationship with her

CloseWarm, connected

EnmeshedNo boundaries

DistantSurface-level

ConflictedTension, fighting

CutoffNo contact

Step 3 of 7

Your father

Or the person who filled that role.

Name or label

Living?

Yes Deceased

Patterns you observed

Narcissistic Enabler Caretaker Anxiety Depression Addiction Anger / rage Controlling Absent People-pleaser Hypercritical Withdrawn

Your relationship with him

CloseWarm, connected

EnmeshedNo boundaries

DistantSurface-level

ConflictedTension, fighting

CutoffNo contact

Step 4 of 7

Their relationship

How were your parents with each other?

Status

Together Divorced / separated Widowed Never together

The dynamic between them

CloseFunctional partnership

EnmeshedFused, codependent

DistantCoexisting, not connected

ConflictedOpen fighting, volatility

CutoffNo relationship

What did you learn about relationships from watching them?

Conflict should be avoided Walking on eggshells is normal One person gives, the other takes Love is conditional Appearances matter more than truth You stay no matter what Having needs is a burden The volatile person gets accommodated

Step 5 of 7

Siblings

Include step-siblings and half-siblings if they were part of the household.

Step 6 of 7

Your role in the family

Most people played more than one. Select all that fit.

Golden childShowcased, high expectations

ScapegoatBlamed, designated problem

Lost childInvisible, self-reliant

CaretakerManaged everyone's emotions

PeacemakerSmoothed conflict, mediated

MascotUsed humor, deflected tension

Patterns you see in yourself

People-pleasing Difficulty with boundaries Hypervigilance Anxiety Depression Perfectionism Avoidant in relationships Anxious attachment Overwork / can't rest Dissociation / numbing Anger you can't explain Chronic guilt

Step 7 of 7

Partner

Current or most significant. Skip if not applicable.

Name or label

Gender

F M Other

Patterns you observe in them

Narcissistic Enabler Avoidant Anxious Controlling People-pleaser Addiction Anger Withdrawn Secure

Your relationship dynamic

CloseGenuinely connected

EnmeshedCodependent

DistantParallel lives

ConflictedVolatile, cyclical

CutoffEnded / no contact

Your family map

The system you grew up in

What the map shows

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